What if being vulnerable simply has to do with being honouring of you? Being willing to speak up for you? Say what is true for you? Not for the sake of resisting or reacting but from a place where the pain of separation is no longer ok, no longer tolerated?
The vulnerability then is that you are not looking for your whole-ness in being validated by another but simply in being the rawness of you.
It is something I am coming to see for myself after a lifetime of feeling like I had to defend me, that being me was not ok so I had to hide me.
NOT being me is not ok and I am no longer willing to stop being me for anyone or anything.
So where have you been cutting off being you, instead of being willing to just be vulnerable and honouring of you?